Elderfog

Mom came down with a chest cold a few days before Halloween. I took her to see her nurse practitioner. Mom's breathing was labored, so Mrs. D prescribed an antibiotic. Mom was absolutely befuddled. She'd been this way before when she was ill, but never this bad. She quickly began to recover on the antibiotic, and within two days, she was breathing easier. The fog began to lift.

Although she is almost back to normal, she's lost some ground. We returned to the doctors' office yesterday for a follow-up and a pneumonia shot. While we were waiting for Mrs. D, I mentioned that Thanksgiving was less than a week away. Mom was surprised.

Mrs. D asked Mom some questions. "What year is it?"
Mom replied, "2000."
"2000 and what?" prompted Mrs. D.
"2000," said Mom, firmly.
"Do you know what month it is?"
"Next week is Thanksgiving," Mom proclaimed.
"Good! Great!" said Mrs. D, not knowing that I had tipped Mom off.
Mrs. D's last question was, "Do you know who our president is now?"
"The same guy we had yesterday," Mom shot back.
Mrs. D laughed and let it go at that.

Mom was 98 in April.

The other day, recovering from a chest cold, Mom said testily,
"I am NOT sick. If people would just leave me alone, I could get well!"

"Leave me alone" means:

Stop pushing me to drink water.
Stop urging me to eat! I'm not hungry.
Leave my valium in my room so that I can take what I want when I want it.
Stop taking my blood pressure every day. Why are you fussing over me? Anyway, you don't know what you're doing.
Stop babying me!

The occupational therapist who visited on Friday to assess Mom's needs after her fall two weeks ago discovered that she never uses the pull-down seat in her shower for anything other than a toilet-brush rack. She made Mom promise to use the seat and to shower only when my husband or I were at home. When I returned from an errand that afternoon, I found her Kliban-cat bath sheet tossing in the dryer. She had taken her first shower in two weeks while I out. When I tattled to the therapist, she grinned and said, "Typical!"

Ice Cream

After Mom's dental appointment (in August), we stopped for ice cream. She wanted the same flavor she had the last time, a mixture of white and dark chocolate called "World Class Chocolate (WCC)."

I said, "You want 'WCC'."
"No, that wasn't what I had the last time."
"Yes, it was."
"No, it had two colors." (I should point out that Mom is nearly blind because of macular degeneration.)
"WCC has two colors."
"But this is not the one. What others have two colors?"
"None of them."
(Pointing.) "What's that?"
"Rainbow sherbet."
"That's not it. What's that?"
"'Cookies and Cream'."
"I want the one I had last time."
"'WCC is the one you had last time."
"No. What others have two colors?"

By the time, the clerk behind the counter gave up and wandered off.
Finally, she decided to accept WCC, for want of better.
The clerk returned and made her a cone, looking amused.

While licking her ice cream, she said, "This is good. Almost as good as the one I had last time."

A Fur Piece

Mom's coat started life as a mink. I think. Maybe it was only "muskrat died to imitate mink." Anyway, the original coat began to wear out about 40 or 50 years ago. So Mom took it to a local furrier. He cut the coat into strips and turned it into quite a stylish jacket, alternating strips of leather with strips of fur. Mom would store the jacket every summer at Cargo Cleaners and retrieve it "by appointment" every fall. We picked it up from Cargo Cleaners for the last time in July, 1999, on the day I drove her and Sadie, the cat, down to Maryland tø live with us.

Then the fun began. We used to have a Bergmann's dry cleaners in Laurel that would accept furs for storage, after they were first cleaned and repaired. No problem. Mom was willing to part with $80.00 every year even though the jacket was really beginning to show its age. "Are you sure you want to spend that much money on this thing?" the clerk would ask, holding it out on the end of a stick as if it were roadkill. No, there was no stick, but it was clear that the clerks could never fathom Mom's devotion to her fur.

Then Bergmann's closed its Laurel store. The yellow pages lilsted a place on Main Street that stored furs. We made several phone calls. No one ever answered. We climbed dark, rickety stairs and knocked on the door. No one answered the dooor either. Did this hole-in-the-wall belong to some kind of Russian crime syndicate?

I called another place I also found in the yellow pages. A woman with a heavy, perhaps Korean, accent answered the phone. We got exactly nowhere.

"I want to store my mother's fur."
"Stoh in Fawton."
"Yes, I know your store is in Fulton."
"What kreen?"
"A fur coat."
"Stoh in Fawton."
"Yes, I know. Your ad says that you clean fur coats, but do you also store them?"
"Stoh in Fawton."
"Er, thanks. Good bye."

True, I could have gone to Saks or some other place in northwestern Washington, D.C., but I couldn't face the distance or the disdain.

Three years ago when summer arrived, Mom again began fretting about her jacket. I told her I would take care of it and hid it deep in our entry-way coat closet.

Reader, she found it. She was not pleased with me.

More phone calls. I took time off from work and drove to a place on Charles Street in Baltimore, just south of Peabody Conservatory. They said that the jacket had to be cleaned prior to being shipped to Pennsylvania in a refrigerated truck. But then, after a quick inspection, they refused to accept it, stating that the coat would certainly fall to pieces if they cleaned it. I told them a little about Mom and they relented. I am sure it stayed in Batlimore all summer. When I went back to get it, they didn't charge a penny for storage. I knew that I would not be back.

The next summer Mom decided that Maryland winters were too warm for furs anyway. She decided to ship the jacket to Peg, her niece in Massachusetts who "appreciates nice things." Peg, who was nearly 70, wanted Mom to mail it to her son's house rather than her apartment. She promised to send his address, but then she forgot. Mom fumed. She threatened to sell her fur on E-Bay! Peg finally sent the address, apologizing for not knowing that the disposition of the fur was "such an emergency." With address in hand, I spent $30.00 to Fed-Ex the thing to Massachusetts. Peg's a classy lady. She wrote Mom a note thanking her for the lovely fur jacket.